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Session 2 Recap
- Music to get into friendship 🎵
- Remember when you last helped a friend out. How did it make you feel? Was it easy? 😊
- We can 2X our potential by remembering to be our own encouraging friend when we write, because it can help us pivot from our critical inner voices.
⏲️ Do this in 3 min
✅ Introduce yourself + name of friend you had helped ✅ Share what you wrote BUT tell it like it happened to that friend (e.g. instead of “I was told…” say “<name of friend> was told”…) ✅ What would you tell “your friend” to care for them?
Pivot from our inner critical voice by remembering how we talk to friends when we care for them.
✍️ Write 2-3 sentences - Recall 1 piece of feedback that still lingers in your mind from the 1st assignment - Or how you feel right now if you haven’t submitted
Maybe you feel…
Stuck from confusion❓
Frustrated b/c you ran out of time ⌛
(All sorts of valid reasons!)
⏲️ You have 2 minutes…
✅ Share what you wrote ✅ What would you tell “your friend” to address this issue if it happened to them?
Triage feedback like you would for a friend.
Resources Shared by Attendees
A General Theory of Love
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Jill Bolte Taylor: My stroke of insight
Jill Bolte Taylor got a research opportunity few brain scientists would wish for: She had a massive stroke, and watched as her brain functions -- motion, speech, self-awareness -- shut down one by one. An astonishing story.
No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model
No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model - Kindle edition by Schwartz, Richard C., Morissette, Alanis, Morissette, Alanis. Download it once and read it on your Kindle device, PC, phones or tablets.
Blog - RAIN: A Practice of Radical Compassion - Tara Brach
Download a free printable guide here: RAIN: A Practice of Radical Compassion (PDF). Português [.pdf]: RAIN: Uma Prática de Compaixão Radical The acronym RAIN is an easy-to-remember tool for bringing mindfulness and compassion to emotional difficulty. Recognize what is going on; Allow the experience to be there, just as it is; Investigate with interest and care; N urture with self-compassion.
Insights From Attendees 💌
- The difference between success and not being successful is believing in yourself.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself
- Write for yourself. don't worry about the number or lack of number of people who will read it. each time you write, you are honoring your commitment to yourself to grow as a writer.
- Being critical doesn’t equal being productive
- At the end of the day, it's your writing and you are allowed to do what you feel is best
- You'll get better at accepting feedback eventually.
- As Dave Perrell said, don't write for everyone! Filter your feedback to who you are writing for
- Learn to receive and accept good feedback
- Self compassion
- You should [get to] feel safe with the feedback on your writing.
- Be kind and supportive to yourself.
- The best practice for changing your behavior around your inner critic - write more. and more and more!
- It's way more effective to try to speak to your FRIEND - substitute their name, face, personality in your mind - than it is to try to be your own friend, when we think about helping ourselves out of a challenge. :)