Pop-Up Workshop 3: Silent Treatment
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Pop-Up Workshop 3: Silent Treatment

How to use this resource page: 

1. Duplicate this Notion page by clicking "Duplicate" on the top right corner. 
2. Answer the journal prompts
3. Listen to the Q&A audio recordings

TABLE OF CONTENTS

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COUNTERINTUITIVE EXPRESSING MINDSET 3: šŸŽ­ Congruent over Collected The fastest way to lose trust is to keep calm and carry on. Exchange your "I'm fine" for "Here's what's actually going on" and prevent unnecessary misunderstanding.

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šŸ“’ Workshop Takeaways

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THE BIG TAKEAWAY: Before you decide to share something, check your "traffic light" (e.g. šŸ”“ Red Light / šŸŸ” Yellow Light / šŸŸ¢ Green Light). šŸŸ¢ Green Light: share away! šŸŸ” Yellow Light: take a breath. If it feels fine, relax your jaw and share. If it doesn't feel fine, then it's a Red Light. šŸ”“ Red Light: it's totally okay not to share!

What Did Other People Learn In The Workshop?

āœšŸ¼ Bonus Resource #1: Journal Prompts

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How would you act and show up if you did not have to always appear "calm", "composed", or "polished"?

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What would your relationships look and feel like if you gave yourself permission to be imperfect?

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Think of a time you felt the need to conceal or suppress your emotions. If you were to share how you really felt, how might that have changed the outcome?

šŸ™‹šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø Bonus Resource #2: Q&A Audio Recordings and Transcripts

As people, you come across as confident and happy. How long did it take you to get there?
As people, you come across as confident and happy. How long did it take you to get there?12147.7KB

I'd say, I think of it as compounding. Interestingly enough, it gets faster rather than a linear one. It's not linear process where it's like, "Oh, it's going to take all these years."

It felt like really slow moving boulders up a hill initially when I had to get through the harder parts of the work.

I really love this quote that I'm going to butcher right now by Rumi, which is like, "Our task is not to find love, but to eliminate all our barriers to love." And I really think about that law where it's like, some of us have retained as a child, the ability to feel joy and explore that. But some of us have that just covered in rubble that we have to clear first. @

And so a lot of my early inner work had more to do with first learning emotional literacy. Because if you can't feel in one area, then you can't feel in all other areas. And then deeper work with a therapist on just understanding, where does a lot of my negative patterns come from?

What is attributable to my parents? What is attributable to my own decisions, and what can I do in that process? And then also being very lucky to explore a combination of like coaching, psychedelics, and other kinds of workshops that have continued to help me create and have language for the stuff, so that I can talk about it, realize I'm not alone, find other people working on this, figure out what works together, try things, and then realize like, "Oh, wow, like I'm no longer where I was like 10 years ago."

It's a very sudden transformation that is not sudden at all the realization that you're there in some way is sudden, so it's very un-intuitive.